Why is it I alwasy get to these fun ones when they are just about over?
Time for my two cents worth. For all of you arguing about the government getting involved in D.V. cases, I say, Hello, I am the government. Yep. The Man. I am an Assistant Prosecuting Attorney, a D.A. if you will, and I prosecute D.V. cases. All the time.
Know what? It is my business, as much as violence on the street, in an alley, or any other location you can think of. Man on woman. Woman on man. Parent on child. Child on parent. Young on elderly. Elderly on young. I've seen them all. I've prosecuted them all. And I'll gladly do it again. It's a violent crime folks, and I take that stuff seriously. Gender is just a box checked on the intake form. it's all about the violence. And, yes, you can prosecute both sides for D.V. Funny, for people who are so defense oriented, we've seen very little about an attacker and a defender in these situations. Nah, write it all off as mutual combat, and the government shouldn't get involved. But, let me tell you, mutual combat is Disorderly Conduct in most locations, so the guy at the start may likely have been up the creek anyways.
Are more women victims than men. Forget the stats, because those are reported offenses. Ever talk to a D.V. victim? I have. A hundred times over. And, with few exceptions, the time that is reported is not the first, second, or third time. If the victim is a man, the number of reported incidents plummets, due to shame, embarassment, etc. not real manly to report getting beat up by "the little lady" is it. Male super-macho cops don't really help this matter. For that matter, I've seen a couple of female cops ruin a D.V. case with bad attitudes towards male victims. Not many "battered male shlters" out there either.
So, yes, I'll admit that a male victim has some hurdles in the way, but that garbage stops when the case gets presented to a Grand Jury, at least in my county.
As for our original "abuser/victim", I'm sorry he ended up in such a crappy situation. Yeah, he got screwed by teh Federal law, which I find wrong on all sorts of levels, Constitutional and otherwise. And, his lawyer didn't exactly do a bang up job of covering everything with the plea deal, now did he? But, know what. Tough. He cut a deal on a case he should have taken to trial because it was more convenient to cut the deal than take a stand. he made a choice to take the easy way out. Now, he has to live with the consequences.
My dad alwasy said that sometimes in life, you'll come across a choice: the right way and teh easy way. Just cause it's easy don't mean it's right. Guess this guy knows that now.
know how I feel sorry for in this whole mess? The kids, who had the great pleasure of watching all of this firsthand. Sounds like the wife needs counseling, some substance abuse treatment, and to grow up and stop taking a bad mood out on the whole family. And he needs to see that she has these problems, and if he doesn't make sure she gets help, then he needs to do what is necessary to protect the kids.
And, for what it is worth, I am married with two kids. We argue. We fight. We even yell and scream on rare occassions. But we never throw things, we don't hit each other, and we don't even yell around the kids. And, also, for what it's worth, I have caught a woman lying about abuse, and found out how she faked her injuries. Guess what? She went to prison.
Okay. Enough ranting. Anyone want to jump me for sticking my government work nose into iother people's business, fire away. But tell me this, why is it a crime only outside the house? Why shouldn't people be prosecuted for abusive behavior? Why shouldn't the government take a stand for these victims? Why am I the bad guy for doing what's right in these cases?