My son made a gun comment in school...

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NavyGuy

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My seven year old had an assignment to complete a sentence. "I am not too young to__________." He wrote, "shoot a gun". The teacher sent a note home with concern hoping he was speaking of a toy gun. I can see why she would be concerned, hell just turn on the news. So here's the letter I'm sending in. You guys let me know what you think.

Mrs. Bell,
I thought I should be the one to respond to your note that Tyler brought home concerning the comment he made on paper about shooting a gun. First of all I can see why this subject would raise concern. Rest assured, I can put you at ease by giving you a little background on the upbringing I provide for my two sons. I am an avid target shooter, hunter, gun collector, and general outdoorsman. I was brought up shooting at the age of 12. Tyler has never shot a gun but idolizes my hobbies with enthusiasm. My boys are my pride and joy and I want nothing more than for them to embrace safety before all else. Before they are allowed to touch a firearm they have to understand and repeat the four safety rules:

1. Treat every weapon as if it were loaded.
2. Never point your weapon at anything you do not intend to shoot.
3. Keep your finger straight and off the trigger until you are ready to fire.
4. Keep your weapon on safe until you are ready to fire.

No firearms in my home are accessible to the children; I own a large gun safe in which they are kept. However, I will never tell them they can’t handle a weapon. They may do so when they ask, and only after I’ve made sure it’s unloaded and they can verify to me it’s unloaded. It’s my belief once you hide something away, keep it a secret, and never expose a child to something such as a firearm is when you have trouble brewing. Firearms are dangerous in the wrong hands and I never want my sons to possess hands of that sort. They show great enthusiasm with the concept I’ve put before them. They help me sort brass, watch me clean guns, help prepare wild game, and are exited to go on their first hunt. I will continue to feed that enthusiasm in a positive manner as long as they show interest. I hope to raise two life-long hunting and shooting buddies that I will never have to fear on the range or in the woods.
I’m sorry this letter is so long, but due to the nature of the concern I think I owe you an absolute explanation. I happen to fear the children in their school who stumble upon dad’s weapon and learn how to use it on youtube, or on the street with their friends. Please feel free to contact me anytime for concerns such as this.
Sincerely,
 
Well stated,NavyGuy. You made a very calm,reasonable,rational argument that should put their fears to rest.
But, we all know there's no chance of that happening.:scrutiny:
 
Only thing I saw was you left the word/letter "a" out in the first sentence.


the comment he made on paper

the comment he made on "a" paper...

If its an english teacher (my mother was, horror stories) it pays to have everything perfect, especially on a sensitive subject.

Good letter. Schools are getting, no past, the point of insanity when it comes to zero tolerance and what they see as "troubling".
 
Sorry, but I think it's too bad you feel like you have to explain anything. You shouldn't feel like you have to defend your family and your interests because some second grade teacher got her panties in a bunch. I've never been to Hampton Roads but your post tells me it's not my kind of place.

Here in rural Maine guns, shooting, hunting, trapping, etc are an accepted part of everyday life and require no apologies or explanations. Parents still send photos of their kids posing with their rifle and their first deer, etc to the local paper and kids still cut them out and take them to school for show and tell. I wouldn't have it any other way.
 
Very well said! I know the day is coming when I get that note sent home about one of my girls. Hope I am as articulate and well mannered as you. Maybe I should bookmark this post. ;)
 
I didn't get a note, it was face to face with her principal about 9 year old "blasting" the coyote that was trying to get in the hen house. Principal thought kid was making it up till I said I didn't make kid skin the yote, she was too squeamish for that.
 
Hello all, RON L here I thought it was a Reasonable Resonce but I have to agree with WC145, I hate that you EVEN HAD TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF! Schols are a Place for learning, Not nany State Spy Places as so many schools have made thier teachers or they did on thier own! You have nothjing to be ashamed of and I tought you did a good Job explaianing what any Adult should already know? Obvously she does not! I lived in Hampton HRoads and Remember it well, fondly in some cases so not so fond monents as well!

RON L (CPO Navy E-7 Retired)


RON
 
I am greatful to live in an area of the country where outdoor sports are openly encouraged and expected. Your letter was well written and well thought through. Hopefully, the recipient teacher will consider the reasonableness of your comments.
 
Excellent respond. My wife taught for 39 years and from the teachers perspective, I understood her concern. Politics and society places an undue burden on our educators and are held accountable for more than just providing an education.

I assure you, your letter will be well received and the teacher will not be looking at your child as a possible threat, just and eager child who cannot wait for daddy to let him shoot.
 
I've never been to Hampton Roads but your post tells me it's not my kind of place

Hey don't judge our whole area by one oversensitive teacher! Hampton Roads is actually pretty gun friendly and obviously a large Military population. Come Visit!
 
Too much information

You started off well, but then went into details that could well raise more questions.

What you write should drive only what you want your letter to achieve. Do you want Mrs. Bell & the school authorites to let the matter drop and let your kid be? Do you want to educate the teacher? Or do you want to raise potential red flags with the authorities?

For example I am concerned about your use of the word "weapon" in the four safety rules. Then you go on to use the word "firearm". Suggest you stick to the words gun or firearm. I am also concerned that you are going on with way too much 'fervor', which transmits anxiety to the authorities.

Here's a quick re-write, which assumes the teacher and the school are Antis whom you will not be able to convert. Your letter's job is to defuse and deflect, so that your son can go on with his perfectly normal childhood without being singled out as a 'gun nut'.



"Mrs. Bell,

Re: Grade 2 assignment to complete the sentence "I am not too young to__________."

Thank you for your note of <date> that my son Tyler brought home, in which you express hope that when Tyler completed the above sentence by answering "to shoot a gun", he was only speaking of a toy gun.

As a matter of fact Tyler was speaking of his hope that he will soon be old enough to shoot a real gun, something which he has yet to do.

When my wife and I decide that Tyler is mature enough to learn the sports of target shooting and hunting, he will have the opportunity to do so in a closely supervised environment.

Meanwhile, as my father did with me from age 12 on, I am teaching Tyler to appreciate and respect the outdoors and the animals that live there. He is also learning the established rules of firearms safety. I am sure that you understand that my child is my pride and joy, and that when it comes to the outdoors I want nothing more than for him to embrace and practice firearms safety.

Before he is allowed to touch a firearm, he will have been trained through repetition and example to respect these four safety rules:

1. Treat every firearm as if it were loaded.
2. Never point your firearm at anything other than your target.
3. Keep your finger off the trigger until you are ready to fire.
4. Keep your firearm on safe until you are ready to fire.

Meanwhile, rest assured that no firearm in my home is accessible to the children, for I use a stout locked gun safe.

I hope the above helps to explain my son's interest in guns. I trust that you now understand the context in which Tyler's reply came up, as well as the responsible upbringing which my wife and I are providing.

I’m sorry this letter is so long, but due to the nature of the concern you raised I think I owe you an absolute explanation.

Please feel free to contact me anytime for concerns such as this.

Sincerely,
 
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Thank you for all of the replies and grammar/spelling corrections. Hampton Roads is a weird place. It's country on the outskirts, mostly populated by people whose families have lived here for generations. Then we have the other half of the population, mainly military from all over the place. Virginia is very gun friendly, more so than my home state of Indiana. We just have a lot of "big city" ideology seeping in everywhere too. Seems like politicians and media have all of the states lined up to become the next California...sad.
 
Very well said. I would have invited her to go to the range, it may have piqued her interest........;)
 
You started off well, but then went into details that could well raise more questions.

What you write should drive only what you want your letter to achieve. Do you want Mrs. Bell & the school authorites to let the matter drop and let your kid be? Do you want to educate the teacher? Or do you want to raise potential red flags with the authorities?

For example I am concerned about your use of the word "weapon" in the four safety rules. Then you go on to use the word "firearm". Suggest you stick to the words gun or firearm. I am also concerned that you are going on with way too much 'fervor', which transmits anxiety to the authorities.

Here's a quick re-write, which assumes the teacher and the school are Antis whom you will not be able to convert. Your letter's job is to defuse and deflect, so that your son can go on with his perfectly normal childhood without being singled out as a 'gun nut'.



"Mrs. Bell,

Re: Grade 2 assignment to complete the sentence "I am not too young to__________."

Thank you for your note of <date> that my son Tyler brought home, in which you express hope that when Tyler completed the above sentence by answering "to shoot a gun", he was only speaking of a toy gun.

As a matter of fact Tyler was speaking of his hope that he will soon be old enough to shoot a real gun, something which he has yet to do.

When my wife and I decide that Tyler is mature enough to learn the sports of target shooting and hunting, he will have the opportunity to do so in a closely supervised environment.

Meanwhile, as my father did with me from age 12 on, I am teaching Tyler to appreciate and respect the outdoors and the animals that live there. He is also learning the established rules of firearms safety. I am sure that you understand that my child is my pride and joy, and that when it comes to the outdoors I want nothing more than for him to embrace and practice firearms safety.

Before he is allowed to touch a firearm, he will have been trained through repetition and example to respect these four safety rules:

1. Treat every firearm as if it were loaded.
2. Never point your firearm at anything other than your target.
3. Keep your finger off the trigger until you are ready to fire.
4. Keep your firearm on safe until you are ready to fire.

Meanwhile, rest assured that no firearm in my home is accessible to the children, for I use a stout locked gun safe.

I hope the above helps to explain my son's interest in guns. I trust that you now understand the context in which Tyler's reply came up, as well as the responsible upbringing which my wife and I are providing.

I’m sorry this letter is so long, but due to the nature of the concern you raised I think I owe you an absolute explanation.

Please feel free to contact me anytime for concerns such as this.

Sincerely,
Oh man, not the "weapon" stuff again. Any ex-mil calls it a weapon.

Calling a firearm a weapon is like calling an apple a fruit.
 
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