My son turned my carry gun on himself

[Lennyjoe]

My heart is heavy with sorrow for your loss.

I have had a couple of friends commit suicide in the past. All were Air Force members. No one ever seen it coming either. They try to teach us how to see the warning signs but hardly anyone ever does.

My prayers are with you and your wife.

 

[JohnKSa]

That's a tough time in life. Sort of a major transition or a lot of major transitions all wrapped into one.

A friend of mine did almost exactly the same thing at almost exactly the same age. No warning, he was just gone one morning.

His folks were frantic to know why it happened. I knew him as well as anyone and there was no good reason, he was just an unhappy person and didn't know what to do with his life. I guess he figured that things were not going to get any better. He got in his car, drove until it ran out of gas and then shot himself.

I'm pretty pragmatic about things, but even if you do get your gun back I think you should sell or trade it. That's a pretty hard reminder of unpleasant times.

I'm sorry for you--there's not much I can say except for this. If he blamed you for whatever was torturing him, if he had wanted to punish you or get back at you for something, he would have made sure you found him.

Sounds like it was the kind of suicide you can't do much about--just like my friend.

 

[Edmond]

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I'm not qualified to say much but I know that you High Road family is here for you.

 

[CWatson]

Prayers and condolances from my family to yours.

No words I can offer will ease your pain.

I have a sister who has tried three times in the last twenty years to end her own life,twice by pills and once by razor blade.She to suffers from depression and the times we have discussed the reasons that pushed her over the edge they are always so unexpected and simple things to rectify,it was shocking.It is hard to try and explain why another does,and what is truly on there minds.

God bless,
CW

 

[simmonsguns]

prayers and condolenses to you and your wife,we will be here when you need us.

 

[AZTOY]

I'm sorry for your lost.

 

[M2 Carbine]

Open Carry

I'm really sorry for you, your wife and family.

My father shot himself when I was young so I can relate a little to how you might be feeling.

Beyond this I have first hand knowledge of what goes through the mind of a person wanting to die.
The person has made up their mind and it's not anyone's fault when they kill themselves.

What I'm saying is along with all the things that go through your mind is the feeling of guilt.
Maybe you could have or should have done something.

Like, maybe if I had been a better son my father might not have killed himself.

Try to put it out of your mind.

Believe me I know, the decision to kill yourself is a personal decision.
For whatever reason, your Son made that decision.
It was his decision and his alone.

 

[Matt G]

Words fail me, sir.

Rambling thoughts:

I'm a father, and a husband, and a gunowner, and I don't know what my life would be if we went though something like that. My wife has told me that she will have to divorce me, should such a thing, intentionally or otherwise, happen to her babies, and I believe her. I don't think it would be out of animosity, but rather that she believes that she would associate me with the loss of our child. Honestly, I can't say that I blame her.

Emotions aren't right or wrong-- they simply are. That your wife is standing strong beside you is a credit to her, and to you. The storm you're undoubtedly weathering is strong, and would be easier to do together, if possible. Sometimes it's not.

Thank you for sharing with us, that our awareness may grow from your tragedy. I am so very sorry for you and your wife, sir. May your son rest in peace.

 

[ducktapehero]

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[RW MTP]

Very Sorry for you loss

I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my 13 year old son (only child) about 8 years ago to a car/bike accident & learned a couple things that I offer up for your thoughts. You will find that the loss of your son will create a hole in your life that can't be filled. No one, not your wife, other children, family, friends or anything else can fill it. Your wife & family members will be going through grief at the same time as you, but everyone does it at their own pace. You may be up when your wife is down or vice versa. You really, really need to realize that you need to give each other all the loving support and patience that you can muster. All kinds of people will "Should on you". Listen & accept what sounds like it fits your life, but remember, it's your grief journey & only you decide what's right for you. Over time you may wish to talk to others who have been through the loss of a child to help you get out the feelings that you can't share with most people. One of the best organizations out there is "The Compassionate Friends:, an organization dedicated to/run by people who have lost children. You can find them on the web, or I would be happy to give you the contact information. Again I am very sorry for your loss and wish that God's healing grace be with you always. Tim

 

[Rebeldon]

Open Carry,

I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what you are going through. Our prayers are with you and your wife.

I am heartened to see that you have maintained your principles despite your tragic loss.

Sincerely,

Rebeldon

 

[field70]

I am truly sorry for your loss. My condolences. Stay strong, my friend..My Prayers.....................

 

[Myself]

Open Carry

I can't imagine anything that hurts worse than this. I feel your pain.

I hope that somewhere in this, when time permits, you can realize some healing.
Don't go this alone.
My prayers go out for you and your family.
God Bless and good luck.

 

[kcslim]

I can't put into words how bad I feel for you sir. I will be sending prayers your way.

 

[luxone]

Mine and my families prayers are with you and yours. As the father of two children I cannot imagine your loss.

 

[tankertom]

Open Carry,

This is an absolutely heartbreaking story.

You and your family are in my prayers.

tt

 

[gunsmith]

If we can help at all please let us know

May God bless and keep you in your time of grief and loss.

 

[tcsd1236]

My brother in law shot himself a few years ago, so I have seen my wifes family suffer through similar events. My best wishes to you.

 

[joeoim]

Open Carry

You, and your family, are in my thoughts and prayers.

Joe

 

[Felonious Monk]

OC

You and your family have my deepest condolences. You will be in my prayers.

Ben/FM

 

[LynnMassGuy]

I am so sorry. Please go easy on yourself. My condolences to you and your family.

 

[ilike9s]

Sorry for your lose. The lose of a son is very sad, my prays are with. May your son find peace.

Ilike9s

 

[Freedspeak]

My condolences and prayers from my family to you and yours.

It is no fault of your own, but over the years I have seen that when a soul wishes to leave, it will find a way.

 

[entropy]

My family's prayers will be for God's grace and peace for your family. May He grant you shelter in his infinite mercy and love. This is one of those time in life where there is one set of footprints in the sand, and they aren't yours. Take care of yourselves.

 

[chaim]

I am truly sorry to hear of this. I am painfully aware of how hard depression can be on a person (friends, family) and I've seen what it does to people. It is a shame that your son took this way and couldn't (that is couldn't not didn't) see any other way out. This is something you'll have to live with the rest of your life, and it won't be easy. Know that my prayers and hopes are with you. Please, don't try to tough this out. You've told us about it, now tell a counselor (you and your family will need him/her even if you don't think so) and/or find a support group. Unfortunately, there are too many people who have blazed this trail before you.