The way I see it is that there are two situations
First, there is no indication (be it verbal, sign, etc) that guns are not allowed or need to be disclosed.
In this case, I would say that for the most part, there is no reason to tell the host. Having said that, I do believe that there are exceptions which need to be addressed on a case by case basis. For example, if the household has small children (anyone who has small children knows that a concealed weapon can go from concealed to open in a blink of an eye). Or say if I was going over for a pool party where there would be a need to disarm myself (the gun has left my possession and therefore I cannot guarantee its safe and proper use).
The second situation is where the homeowner has directly conveyed their wish that no guns be brought into their house (this is more than just knowing they are anti-gun) . In this case, absolutely and without question, I would not bring a gun in, concealed or not. This can be implemented in two ways; leave the gun in my car/home, or not go to that person’s house. Pretty simple. Alluding to SSN Vet’s very pertinent comment, “…guns are not the central, defining element of who I am”, the latter solution would rarely come into play. If on the off chance (yes, I live in a safe area and associate with safe people who also live in safe areas) I do not feel comfortable going to that person’s house without protection, I will make that clear to the person and let them compromise their convictions, not me.
I am always astonished at the mentality of “If its concealed, they won't know unless you tell them” as an excuse for not abiding by someone’s rules. This attitude is something I’d expect from a child who was told they can’t have any cookies before dinner, but ate them anyways when no one was looking because “nobody saw me do it, so the rule doesn’t apply.” Would anyone here accept this behavior from their child? No, and I definitely wouldn’t accept it from an “adult”. If someone tells you “Don’t bring a gun into my house” and you do it anyways, you are rude, immature, and a coward. Again, this isn’t about why someone doesn’t want a gun in their house or if their reasons make sense or not, it is about RESPECT. Respecting the wishes of another individual who has just as much right to hate guns and control his/her household as you do to carry a gun and not go to that person’s house.
