towboat_er
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I think trading it in on another gun is the right thing to do.
The nephew should decide what to do with the gun because it is now his property. He should make his decision based on reason, rather than superstition or mysticism. However, part of being rational is to take into account the potential actions/reactions of others who are a part of his life, who may be under the influence of superstition/mysticism. Not telling the irrational mom and sister that he is keeping the gun would probably be wise. There is no need to lie to them -- he should just not talk about that subject around them. Eventually they will forget about it.
id give it back or get rid of it id never drive a car someone was killed in buy a house someone died in or a gun someone killed them self with thats just bad karma
Sounds tricky, and yet, maybe not.I'm looking for some thoughts and opinions on a weighty topic...
Background:
A troubled man deliberately kills himself with his Colt 1911. Some years later, the deceased's father gives the gun to a nephew, who is a younger cousin of the suicide victim. The uncle (again, he's the father of the suicide victim) expresses a desire to his nephew that the gun stay in the family. But the deceased's mother wants the gun "gone," and the deceased's sister wants the gun destroyed.
The younger cousin who now has the 1911 wants to keep the gun, and is thinking of having it refinished (the pistol still has organic residue on it from the suicide). Further, the cousin who received the 1911 wants to shoot it as a tribute to his late older cousin, with whom he shared many good times and has many great memories. Plus, the younger cousin wants (someday) to start enjoying the suicide gun with his own son.
Two questions:
1. Whose wishes should be honored, the uncle's or the deceased's sister's?
2. If the gun stays, should future shooting activities involving the suicide gun within the (extended) family be kept secret from the sister to avoid re-traumatizing her?
Another point: If individuals are at a greater risk to commit suicide if a family member has already done so -- at least 2.5x greater, according to one study published in 2010 -- does anyone see an added danger of keeping this particular gun around?
Thanks in advance for your thoughts on this.
Mr. Doughnut
Neither happy or sad memories affect the characteristics of the gun. It is what it is.
zxcvbob said:something else non-1911ish