Dad's Dementia

[gojuice101]

Sorry for your loss. We went through the same thing with my grandfather until he died a couple years ago, and I'm certain that I'll be dealing with it with my dad in the future (already showing early stages, and too stubborn to get it checked). Dementia and Alzheimer's are horrible diseases. Very difficult to deal with, on both sides I'm sure.

 

[bikerdoc]

Deepest sympathy and condolances to you and your mom.

We are here for you if you need to talk.

 

[danez71]

My condolances to you and your family.

He's in a better place, now.

 

[03fatboy]

Sorry for your loss, thinking of you and your family.

 

[tarosean]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[red rick]

Thanks so much for your thoughts and kind words . He is in a better place now . Dementia is a sad disease , and these last 2 years have been rough watching a man who could fix anything , not be able to even turn on a light . I think I have already done most of my grieving over the last 6 months , I am happy for him now , he is with God now . He was 80 years old in November .

 

[TomJ]

Red Rick,
You and your family are in our prayers. Your father was lucky to have a son who cared for him. My ex's mom is in the early stages of dementia, and it is sad watching what's happening to her.
Tom

 

[Walkalong]

I am sorry for your loss. I am going through the same thing with mom.

Many here have experience with this and understand the difficulty and pain that goes with caring for your loved one, losing the person they were, and then losing them in the end. Don't hesitate to talk to people (Here and at home) who can help you through it by simply sharing.

 

[Shanghai McCoy]

Very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

 

[red rick]

My thoughts and prayers are with all of you that have a family member suffering with this disease , it is so sad to watch a loved one go through this .

Thank you all for caring .

 

[Bullseye]

Condolences to you and yours. It has been tough, farther along we'll understand why.

 

[PowerG]

Sorry for your loss, my father passed away the day after Thanksgiving from Alzheimer's, such a terrible disease.

 

[JohnBiltz]

My mother passed this summer under similar circumstances including a stroke. A stroke is terrible, dementia is terrible together I don't think words can accurately describe. When she went it was a mercy. Condolences and good luck to you and your family.

 

[drband]

Sorry for your loss. You have done well for your Dad. He is at peace now.
My Dad is 87 and struggling. Mom is 90 & has dementia. It's not easy for the elderly.

 

[ATLDave]

Sorry for your loss, but glad for your father's release from the suffering.

 

[SSN Vet]

There is definitely a difference between long term memory (~20 years +) and more recent memories (<5 years) with those who suffer from dementia. The longer your track record with them, the longer they'll continue to recognize you, as they go deeper in.

 

[kscharlie]

Rick, I am sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. I lost my Dad about 18 months ago. His faith and my many memories are a huge benefit in dealing with his loss. It sounds like your position is much the same. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your Mom and your family.

 

[red rick]

Thanks so much .

 

[Tommygunn]

My sympathies to you.

 

[Shaq]

I doubt he would even know how to load a gun .

He is still very happy to see me , I am thankful for that . I can see it in is face and smile , even though he really can't talk or comprehend things .

Thanks for prayers , Arizona .

You wouldn't want to bet your mom's life on the assumption that he couldn't load a gun. Good decision to prevent access. I went through the same thing with my mom in her last years. She was never a nice person but she became much worse with dementia - calling the police on everyone who was trying to help her, etc.

 

[Ryanxia]

Glad he's at peace now. Sounds like he was a good guy that left a lasting impression on those around him.

 

[stringnut]

Mom passed about 14 months ago after 10 years with diagnosed dementia. Dad, with extreme difficulty, was able to keep her home. She didn't know anyone for the last 4 years. After a certain point the end cannot come fast enough. Some much suffering for the one with dementia and those around them. Thankfully my wife was a huge help and support even when some that should have been were not. Very sorry for those who have to go through it.

 

[Howard Roark]

Condolences to you and your family. I've always liked what Will Rogers Jr. said about his dad, sounds like it fits yours as it soon will too fit mine.

“His heritage to his children wasn’t words or possessions, but an unspoken treasure, the treasure of his example as a man and a father.” — Will Rogers Jr.

 

[red rick]

When my mom left him I was the oldest , 14 . My sister was 12 and my brother was 10 . My mom came to me and told me she was leaving my dad and asked if I was coming with her . I didn't give her a answer right then . After I thought about it , everyone leaving my dad , I told her that I was staying with dad . I think we had a special bond because I stayed with him . I think that bond extended to his close friends as well . They would take me hunting when my dad could not get off work and to this day one still takes me rabbit hunting even though he does not get out of the truck .

My dad gave me his Browning A5 when I was about 13 . Well I don't know if he really gave it to me , he let me use it to go hunting my first time and he never got it back . I will think about him every time I see that gun . Once I get over my rotator cuff surgery , I am going to use it on my next hunt . I had kind of semi retired it because I didn't want to put anymore wear on it .

I really appreciate all the kind words and prayers , it really helps . The Will Rogers quote brought a few tears .

 

[FROGO207]

Went through that with my mother. Now focus on the happy times and remind all family and friends of those good times as well. Sounds as though he was and is still a great role model from those memories.