Have you ever dated an anti? How'd it go?

Yep. She didnt approve of my firearm collection so I dropped her like a hot rock.

Take her shooting. If she finds it fun you may have a winner.

Mine recently proclaimed a Valentines day trip to a new swanky indoor range the best Valentines day ever.

My wife of 16 years was, and sort of remains an anti. But a few years back she got tempted when she saw me plinking at pine cones with a little air pistol, tried it, loved it. Foot in the door accomplished! Still haven't made a shooter of her, but she has a .22lr pen gun now. Saw one I made for my brother and wanted a more slender, ladylike version. Challenge accepted. She's yet to shoot it with more than a blank. Progress is slow. But getting there. She says she might want to try an air rifle sometime soon...

I dated a woman who said, "We need to do something about guns because there's too many people doing too many bad things with guns." After Sandy Hook, she repeated what she said, adding, "I'm almost afraid to talk about it with you."

I said, "Please do talk about it with me. Let's say more gun control & restrictions would have prevented Adam Lanza from buying guns. His stupid mother bought him guns. Now, he's a mentally-ill person with several guns & he decides to commit mass murder. How would you propose to stop him at that point?"
She said, "I guess the only way to stop him would be shooting him."
I said, "And why couldn't anyone stop him?"
She said, "I guess no one is allowed to have a gun in a school."
She got it.

We've been to the range (at her suggestion) several times since.

Not only have I dated 'em, I married one ... Predictably, as soon as she became the victim of a violent crime, one of the first things she said was, "I need my own gun."

Not sure if I'd ever go through the whole dating thing with an anti ever again, though, to be sure, the few gals I had any kind of relationships with knew what I did for a living (either military or law enforcement), so they weren't surprised about me being pro-gun ...

Only when I need an emetic.

It has been awhile since I've been on the dating scene. Have I dated an anti? Statistically speaking, probably, but none to my recollection. It doesn't matter, because I've been married for a long time now to a lady that has always endorsed pretty much 100% of my firearms activities. She's a shooter too and a member of the NRA just like her old man.

mine is from a 100% gun control asian country, but she is openminded and asked me to teach her. she got hooked and so was i.

I think if the approach is right, you can change minds. Most are anti because they have 0% knowledge. Teach them and train. I've shot my whole life. I cast and reload, and try to shoot a few times a month. My beautiful wife and I have been together for 18 years. She NOW gets heated when our 10 yr old doesn't want to go shoot with me. She was anti as anti gets at first. Now she can see the light. It's just a healthy hobby that may save our lives one day.

My advice is to not make it a deal breaker. Just keep on doing what you like. If that bothers her enough to split, then so be it. I've never met a woman that didn't want to feel safe with her partner. Most anti's have just never seen the normal, healthy and fun aspect of shooting.

When we're in a shady part of town for whatever function, she'll always ask me " honey, are we okay?" That is code for 'are you armed?'.

I have yet to meet a female anywhere who is in to alloys, smelting, reloading, shooting as much as me. But I'd not let a good one slip by because she hates guns.

All bets are off if she's a 100% liberal, Clintonista. You'll disagree on much more than firearms policies. IMO.

YMMV.

I haven't dated anybody since back when I was 18 and didn't own any guns.

Have you ever dated an anti? How'd it go?

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Yes, I have dated an 'anti'.

I would say that it went great. We've been happily married to each other for 33 1/2 years now.


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Not for long. Sometimes hard to overcome the MSM brainwashing.

As I've said before, and as alluded to by another poster, "Sometimes it takes either a good mugging or a good tyranny to change someone's mind."

Terry

Yes, I went on exactly two dates with an "anti." I won't go into detail of how it "went", enough to say he had good reason not to want his dates to have firearms, knives or any other method of enforcing respect when it's lacking.

Yes I did, and we dated for several months. Major liberal, worked for the EPA and did so with a fervent passion for all things Environmental.

The warning signs kept piling up. I'm not good at breakups so I just split. If it weren't for one aspect of our relationship (which was phenomenal) it wouldn't have lasted that long.

She also used cocaine.

She is now a very prominent figure in the EPA. We have not kept in touch. If we were to cross paths again it probably wouldn't go well for me.

Every time I encounter some mid-level government bureaucrat I think of her, ensconced in her position of power, telling everyone what's best for them because they know better than they do.

It would have been a very, very messy divorce.

I dated one my last semester in college. Guns and politics rarely came up because we both discovered quickly we were pole's apart. She was a flaming liberal and I a hard core conservative. It didn't last long, a couple of months. The chemistry between us on a physical level clicked and clicked very well. We graduated and went separate ways. Ah the intemperance youth...

Would never date one.

My wife and I met online. She said the fact that I was pro-2A and had a CCW permit was a deal closer because I had passed a background check. LOL

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Nope. Nor will I date a Democrat or non-Christian.

These are points of compatibility I'm absolutely unwilling to cede. And if she's not at least one standard deviation above average intelligence, the odds are also not good.

Yes, I'm picky.

I'm a retired psychologist and conducted lots of relationship counseling, both premarital and marriage counseling. When I encountered major philosophical differences with couples such as exists between pro-gun and true anti-gun people, the prognosis for resolution and staying together was never good. I considered it successful therapy when the couple would part company amicably.

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I wouldn't say "dated". Brought one home once. Next morning, when she saw the 1911 on the floor, she got weird and split. Which was fine, I probably wouldn't have called back anyway.


I like your style.

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Yes, many years ago, most of the girls I dated were anti. I was young, and not interested in long-term relationships with any of them. I dated some that weren't and did take them shooting if they wanted to.

When I was dating my wife, she wasn't anti, just not really pro. Her brothers had soured her on long arms, because they thought it was funny to hand a 10 year-old girl a shotgun and not tell her how to shoot it.

I was able to get her to shoot my handguns, including my Redhawk. I made up some light target loads for her, and she enjoyed shooting them, as well as .38 wadcutters out of my Python, and my S&W 422. (Wish I had all those guns still... ) She'll go to the range with me about once a year to keep her familiar with my pistols in case she would need to use one for HD, but it's just not a big thing for her. I don't push it, though I'd like her to practice a little more than that.

I did for a short time, it ended for reasons other than 2A......................turned out she was a flaky chick

I did date a girl in high school who's dad came out to greet me with a shotgun once. I thought he wanted to do some trap shooting out back. Nope.

No, never. That is a deal breaker for me.

I'm a retired psychologist and conducted lots of relationship counseling, both premarital and marriage counseling. When I encountered major philosophical differences with couples such as exists between pro-gun and true anti-gun people, the prognosis for resolution and staying together was never good. I considered it successful therapy when the couple would part company amicably.

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I would imagine if this were the ONLY issue, it might be resolved, but I have found that in most cases, people who are anti-gun usually have a long list of other beliefs to go along with it that I don't subscribe to, and THAT is the deal breaker.

I dated an 'anti' right after college. She was firm in her convictions on many subjects and dedicated, someone I still respect--but it wouldn't have worked out. My Mrs. doesn't have a particular interest in the shooting sports but was raised right and was an NRA-Lifer before I was. If the right to arms is central among your core convictions you might have a shot at converting your 'anti' paramour---but it likely would be too big a philosophical gap.