So what am I missing? Why are .45acp carbines not the go-to for PCC/home defense?
Because 9mm is seen as being "Good enough". In the 1980s, 90s, and 2000s, 9mm was seen as being somewhat inadequate. Which is why the market for 9mm PCCs then was so lethargic and everyone was using .223. The public perception has changed to 9mm now being perfectly adequate for an autoloader carbine. It's not a matter of 9mm vs 45. It's a matter of "adequate" vs "adequate". Except one of those "adequate" options was more expensive.
That perception though, can change.
Look at things like the Savage 340 in 30-30. For YEARS they languished as an "inadequate" gun. Everyone wanted 308, 270, 30-06, 7mm and 300 magnums. It was not hard to find half a dozen 340s gathering dust at any decent sized gunshop. Around the 2010s, at the same time everyone and their dog was still buying ARs, the public perception changed. People realized that shooting a deer 75 yards away with a 300 Magnum was stupid and these "old" bolt action 30-30s were actually perfectly adequate for the job AND easier on both the shoulder and wallet. The once plentiful supply dried up as they became desirable again.
The 1986 Miami shootout led to a ~25 year move to 40 S&W and, to a lesser extent, 45 ACP. Another high profile incident could easily cause another move back to heavier calibers. Suddenly that "adequate" vs "adequate" scenario turns to an "inadequate/marginal" vs "adequate". Shelves will fill with used 9mm PCCs like they used to be full of Savage 340s as people make the switch. Or be relegated to a closet or "spare" gun.
Will such an event happen? Who knows. For all I know the NFA will be declared unconstitutional and submachineguns in 32 ACP and 30 Super Carry will become hugely popular. (Recoil sensitive elderly will absolutely love them.) Leaving 9mm to go hang out with 45 ACP.
Blowback 9mm PCCs already suffer from sharp recoil impulse thanks to the heavy bolt slamming around. Some of the .40s are downright uncomfortable. A .45 would be even worse.
I disagree that this is an inherent problem of 9mm blowback PCCs. I instead see it as a problem with specific designs. The Hi-Point 995 and Kel-Tec Sub2000 are two guns that are a bit "slappy" with the recoil. The Sub2000 due to using a really lightweight bolt and the 995 due to the stock flexing upwards when the bolt reaches the rear of travel. By contrast, the PC-9 stock, both old and new, do not flex like the 995 and have enough bolt mass to avoid the problems that the Sub2000 has. When I take new women shooters out, they tended to like my PC-9 more than my Mini-14. From their perspective, the muzzle blast seems to be more of an issue than the actual recoil. Men like the Mini because "Big Boom". Recoil of either is irrelevant.
I think the pistol caliber guns pretty much fell out of favor when the AR's got smaller and offered more in the way of performance. Other than something like a special-use type gun, like the above, I really dont see much point in them anymore.
This was true a decade or so ago, but the popularity of PCCs has exploded in the last 5-10 years. There are many reasons for this. (In addition to what I have mentioned above.)
1. Short ARs suck. The muzzle blast is dreadful and just not fun to live with for regular shooting. People put up with them for awhile, but nowadays fireworks are cheaper if you want to feel concussive blast a few feet from your face. It is my observation that this tends to be a large issue for women. They don't like huge muzzle blast, don't want to put up with it, and I can't say that they're wrong.
2. Logistics. We've been through enough ammo shortages in living memory that this is a big deal for a lot of people. Most of us here are in the top 1% of shooters, so have large stockpiles to get us through these. The other 99% don't have 10,000 rounds in their basement. These people will have perhaps a few hundred rounds of centerfire ammo on hand. Instead of having to figure out what the optimal mix of pistol and rifle ammo to have is, they can just stockpile a few hundred rounds of the same ammo. Or they pick up a PCC in addition to their AR so they have a rifle that can make use of their pistol ammo and/or have a gun for their wife/girlfriend/kids.
3. More realistic expectations. You're not going to be making 400 yard shots when the range goes two-way. Kevlar isn't a magic forcefield and doesn't cover your face anyways.
4. Backstops and impact area. PCCs are typically okay to use at pistol-only indoor ranges. Outdoors, the impact area for shooting a PCC is much smaller than a .223. Same reason 22 Hornet or 22 Magnum gets used for pest control rather than a .223.
5. Tactical Cowboy guns. This trend has been going under the radar. Henry has been selling lever action guns as fast as they can build them for many years. In ban-states, your option ted to be a gimped AR, Clinton Clips, or other abominations. Rather than put up with that, many people just go for a lever 357 Magnum, slap a red-dot on it, and call it good. Then buy a 38 Special revolver.
That's enough commenting from me for now. Hope someone finds this insightful.